How to Help Someone Who is Struggling with their Mental Health

HOW YOU CAN BE THERE FOR THEM

Mental health is a major problem in our society— our world. As of right now, about 1 out of 5 adults is affected by mental illness(es). Globally, millions are affected by their own mental health and struggle to open up and gain support. Many people are left clueless on how to support a person who is struggling with their mental health.

Start the Conversation

The first step in helping someone who’s struggling with mental health is to simply start the conversation. Sit down with them, go for a walk, text them, or do anything that makes them feel safe and comfortable, and just talk to them. It may not seem so, but starting a conversation with them about mental health is the beginning of the process.

If you don’t know what to say, ask them how they are, or how you can help. Here are a couple of example conversation starters:

• “I’ve noticed that… (you’re going through a difficult time, you’ve been distracted, you’ve been showing up to work late, etc.)”

• “How have you been lately?”

• “How are you, really?”

• “Is there a way I can help you?”

When you start the conversation, there are some dos and don’ts. For example, don’t be judgemental, and instead be considerate and compassionate.

Communication is Key

Listening to the other person is one of the best things you can do while having this conversation. You showing up, and listening, would already mean so much to them. So continue to make your conversation great and proactive. Believe them when they talk about their struggles, and don’t be judgemental. Don’t interrupt them as they speak; let them open up and talk to you, and don’t ask too many questions. This is not a cross-examination. Try to avoid prying, because it’ll make things uncomfortable and awkward for them. The way you listen should signal that it’s okay to talk about their mental health with you.

One of the best ways you can support them is to actively participate within the conversation. Take your conversation with them seriously; don’t turn it into a joke or sarcasm. Avoid criticizing them, being hostile, and being quick to assume things. Be as compassionate and empathetic as you can, and show respect for their problem. Voice your support, and try to give practical advice, or even hug them. Express your concern for them and what they’re facing, and show that you care.

What Next?

After the conversation, try to have more conversations with them. After the first conversation, it may be awkward for both parties, but keep going anyways. Be sure to remain a great listener, communicator, and supporter for them.

Educate Yourself

Start learning about mental health and the struggles that the other person is facing. Start doing some research online and/or with a skilled medical professional. Another option is to talk to a skilled counselor at Crisis Text Line by texting HOME to 741741 (Canada: text 686868 / UK: text 85258). Find out ways that you can help them, and much more, by educating yourself.

Be with Them

An amazing way to help is to be with them every step of the way. Visit them frequently, and talk to them over the phone. You showing up and being there to support them makes a big impact. Keep having those conversations with them. Talk about how you can help, and possibly if they need to see a therapist. Continue voicing your support for them, and keep expressing your compassion for them.

Seek Help

If needed, seek the help of a loved one or an adult. They may be able to help you and the person who’s struggling more. Also if needed, seek professional help or call/text a lifeline. Visit our Mental Health Resources page for more information on how you can help and other resources.